Dating Safety

Pondigo offers a fun, safe environment that gives you control over your online dating experience. That said, we recommend you exercise caution when getting to know people online and off-line. Don't be afraid to meet people. Just be sure to use a little common sense.

While our alumni verification process provides Pondigo subscribers with a bit more reassurance regarding the individuals participating in this site (and should allow us to locate the true identity of any member for police investigative purposes), we can’t vouch for every member and we recommend you utilize appropriate levels caution as you develop relationships via the site.

The following tips can help to ensure a fun, safe dating experience:

The basics of your online dating experience:

DO guard your identity:
Never post personal contact information in your profile. Don't share your real name, personal phone numbers, or any other identifying information while emailing until you are comfortable doing so.

DO remain anonymous until you feel safe and ready:
Your communication options on Pondigo are designed with "doubleblind" technology to help you protect your identity until you choose to reveal it. If the other person provides his or her phone number early in the email exchange, that doesn't obligate you to use it or reciprocate.

DO be careful when using a sexy name:
Keep in mind that, while using sexual connotations in your email address or user name might get you noticed, it probably won't attract the sort of person you'd like to share a relationship with — or even a conversation, for that matter. Also, do not include your real name in your profile or in your user name.

DO use a current picture and be truthful in your description of yourself in your profile:
Misleading descriptions or photos can result in angry feelings and can end a relationship before it begins. In the long run, honesty is your best relationship tool.

DO trust your gut:
Immediately quit corresponding if you feel unsure or threatened.

DO keep a record of your conversations:
Remember to save your emails for future reference. Pondigo does not retain copies of your correspondence longer than 30 days.

DO block abusers:
We STRONGLY encourage you to block any member who behaves in an abusive manner and to report the behavior to Pondigo. You can block people and report concerns from any profile page or directly from your email window.

Examples of abuse include:

  • Members sending harassing or offensive emails/IMs
  • Members behaving inappropriately after meeting in person
  • Criminals or other "shady" characters using the service
  • Fraudulent registration or profiles
  • Spam or solicitation*
  • Copyright infringement
  • Members asking you for money or donations
  • Married people or minors using the service
  • Any other violation of Pondigo's policies


*Our Terms of Use strictly prohibits the use of this service for the purpose of solicitation. Please notify us immediately if another member sends you links to a pay-to-view site or includes instructions about how to call a 1-900 number. Also, you should report invitations to join other singles sites or attempts to sell any merchandise or service.

The next step: meeting offline:

Most first meetings are perfectly safe. But it's always smart to take basic precautions. Always trust your instincts. And be sure to keep the following guidelines in mind:

DO meet in public:
ALWAYS arrange to rendezvous in a populated, public place. NEVER meet in a private home (or in a hotel room) or in a remote location.

DO tell a friend:
Tell at least one friend or family member you are meeting, where you are going and when you expect to return. Let your date know the meeting is not a secret.

DO stay sober:
Refrain from drinking excessively, as it could impair your ability to make good decisions and may put you at risk.

DON'T leave home without your mobile phone:
If you have a mobile phone, take it with you on dates. Most cell phones can be used to call 911.

DON'T ask the other person to pick you up:
Get yourself to and from the date, even if you have to have a friend drive you or take a taxi.

DON'T leave personal belongings (purses, wallets) or drinks unattended:
Don't risk having your personal information stolen. The same goes for your drink — don't risk having it tampered with. If you must leave your drink unattended to go to the restroom, order another when you return.

DON'T succumb to the temptation to take first dates to your home (or to go to his/her home):
Stay in a public place, even if you are pressured. If you feel pressured, end the meeting and leave at once.

Trusting your instincts:

"If it sounds too good to be true, it probably is."

If the other person can only meet or talk to you at odd hours, he or she may be keeping a secret.

Get as many details as possible about the other person BEFORE meeting off-line.

DO a little digging. Ask questions, utilize Internet search engines and common sense. You can also ask your date to submit to a background check, but be careful — a background check is only as good as the information provided to the checker.

DO be wary of someone who is vague, talks in circles or answers questions with other questions. Some people are very private, but if you're about to take your relationship to the next level, this isn't the time for reservation.
 
DO proceed with caution if someone pledges undying love after a first meeting — or even after several conversations online.

Lust at first sight is alive and well, but love is, generally, an acquired feeling.

DO guard your financial information and beware of solicitation.


Reporting Abuse:

If you receive an inappropriate email or see a profile that seems suspicious in any way, please notify us. You can do this from any profile page or from any email received.

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